There’s nothing our egos love more than absolute control. Control offers the comfort of certainty—the sense that if we can predict, plan, and dominate every variable, we can ward off chaos. The ego thrives on ownership, safety, and separateness.
Jesus, along with spiritual teachers across centuries, suggested a counterintuitive path: relinquish control. The lesson sounds deceptively simple but runs against the entire architecture of modern life. To say “let thy will be done” is not merely to utter a well-worn prayer, but to make a revolutionary declaration: I will no longer be the one driving the car.
When trust is placed fully in something larger than the self, fear begins to dissolve. The anxious mind that plots and panics starts to quiet. It’s a spiritual inversion: the less you grip, the more securely you are held.
Modern Christianity, for all its moral rigor and ritual, rarely lingers on this act of surrender. Churches repeat the Lord’s Prayer in a steady drone, but the radicalism embedded in those words—yielding one’s will entirely to a higher source—is often left unexplored. Without understanding the surrender being invoked, the prayer becomes rote, drained of its alchemical power.
The ego resists because it loves the future tense, clinging to the fantasy that knowing what’s coming equals safety. Yet the future is not ours to control. The human mind operates like a low-resolution GPS, navigating only what’s visible on the screen. The divine, or higher consciousness, has the satellite view. It sees the road closures, the detours, the protection hidden in delays. But our ego, with its impatient insistence, wants to press “reroute” every time.
We all carry within us this quiet, reliable navigation system that never stops transmitting. Yet most of us mute it, preferring the static of control to the signal of trust. The task is to listen again, to declare: I relinquish control. I surrender fear. I trust the route unseen.
There’s another layer to this surrender in our daily lives: the ego’s need to be right. It craves victory, even in conversations that have no prize. The next time you feel the urge to win an argument, pause. Ask yourself, as Wayne Dyer and Eckhart Tolle framed it: “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?”
Letting go is not passivity. It’s quiet defiance against our most persistent illusion—that we are separate, sovereign, and singular. Surrender paradoxically brings unity: a recognition that we are woven into the same vast field of consciousness.
This celestial force we call the Holy Spirit is not supernatural. It exists fully within the natural order of the universe. All living beings have access to it, for we are intrinsically one with the cosmos. Quantum science is only now catching up to what spiritual individuals across traditions have long understood: what we’ve historically labeled as “God” is the universe itself, and the spirit of the universe is a very real and present force embedded in the nature of existence, binding all of us together.
Here are some Other Tips & Affirmations, declare them in your own words to truly mean them)
- Declare that you are not special or distinct from your fellow humans and neighbors. In a culture where we are constantly told by our parents how special we are, it’s done more damage than good by implicitly planting seeds in our minds that we are not equal to others. Instead declare and accept that we are all one. We are all figurative ‘children’ of the universe, reflections of our greater source, and siblings part of a greater family of humanity. We are all one. So anytime you see someone “different” or someone you despise or lean on disliking, forgive whatever animosity you have towards them and declare that we are all brothers/sisters and genuinely extend our love and blessings onto them
- When you see someone going through hardships or suffering, help them in any way that you can but if you can’t extend your blessings to them too. Remember that we are all one, so don’t turn a blind eye to them or think “that’s not my problem”. Expressing empathy or compassion is much better than not caring and keeps you in harmony with the greater universe that is love. Far too often in a nation that labels itself “Christian due to our founding fathers” many routinely overlook this very basic teaching of their own faith.
- Forgive others often, no matter how trivial. If your feelings were slightly hurt, someone cut you off, someone was rude, short, condescending or passive aggressive to you. Your initial reaction is a defensive one, that’s your cue to forgive. Overall, feeling of “how dare you disrespect me” is your prompt, and the more you do this the more invulnerable you become to those “offenses”
- Seeing others that are superficially different from you should serve as a reminder and prompt to declare to the universe we are all one.
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